Parenting Rules That Haven’t Changed

Parenting Rules That Haven’t Changed

Parenting isn’t what it used to be, especially when you add technology advancing at a dizzying pace.  This doesn’t mean classic parenting rules don’t carry weight today.  In fact, we may be missing out on not using them more often. While we navigate the modern world using some good old-fashioned advice may be just what parents need to make things a little simpler. Here’s some great tips and advice that will never become irrelevant.

You Can Never Love Too Much

It’s scientifically impossible to spoil a child with love, so scoop them up and shower them with hugs and praise.  Children develop a strong sense of self from the security of feeling genuinely loved and nothing can replace that.

Give Your Child Chores

Some chores should just be done every day, like cleaning their rooms and picking up after themselves.  That is a responsibility and part of contributing to the family.  Extra work can earn a allowance and/or if so desired or some kind of reward.

Take Interest In Your Child’s Life

Time spent with your child is never wasted – and it doesn’t matter what you do together, but how you do it.

Establish Rules and Set limits

Structure makes children feel safe. Over time, boundaries help your child develop the ability to manage her own behavior. When setting limits, be firm but fair. Explain that you have rules for a reason. If your guidelines are grounded in what makes sense, your child is more likely to cooperate.

Let Them Fail

If he forgot about the science fair tomorrow, it’s not your job to run out and buy supplies tonight. Kids need to understand that someday you won’t be there to bail them out.

Encourage Independence

Pick your battles and observe your child’s choices closely. Help him think through difficult decisions, praising good choices and occasionally letting him learn from bad ones.  Above all, give your child space to grow.

Discipline/Consequences

Be it a time out or taking away privileges, children need to learn that there are consequences for their behavior.

Be Consistent

The easiest way to help a child learn to act appropriately is to make good behavior a habit she doesn’t even need to think about. Set routines, present a united front and identify your non-negotiables.

Insist On Good Manners

Please and Thank you’s are a must, but always expect them to be courteous and polite to other’s.

Explain Yourself

Use reasonable, logical and consistent explanations in line with what your child can understand, then hear them out. Listening to your child’s point of view makes her feel like part of the decision-making process.

 

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